Do you struggle coming up with questions for interviewing a relative? You know that preparing questions ahead of time, but what should you ask? Should you rattle off items on the Pinterest discovery “20 best questions for interviewing relatives”?
- What date did that happen?
- Who was grandma’s mother?
- How do you spell Uncle Earl’s middle name?
- What is the address of your first home?
- When and where did you get married?
These questions are heavily influenced by the data gaps in your genealogical charts. Review your family trees to generate questions that the person you are interviewing might be able to answer.
“Tell Me a Story”
Story-based interviews are just that, you’re asking story-based questions like these:
- How did you meet your spouse?
- Why were you a roadie in a rock band?
- Why did you move to Beaumont, Texas from Palo, Iowa?
- Why did you never become a nurse when that was your heart’s desire?
Story-based questions are often triggered by stories or life choices that you are aware that your interviewee made. They stem from stories or tidbits you’ve heard from various family members. These questions depend on you knowing the person you’re interviewing well.
“Where Do You Want to Go?”
This third type of questions can give you facts or stories depending upon where the interviewee wants to take you. These questions are open-ended questions. They often start with “Tell me about…”
- “Tell me about your childhood.”
- Tell me about a nightmare you remember.
- Tell me about your favorite dress when you were younger.
Be careful that you don’t place unnecessary limits on your open-ended questions. For instance, “Tell me about your childhood,” is much better than “What did you like to do when you were 8 years old?” This specific age reference can confuse someone because maybe what they share is what they liked when they were 10 or 5. If you just say, “Tell me about what you liked when you were a child,” it’s much easier. Your interviewee does not have to strive to remember exactly what they liked at a specific age.
You may be tempted to just find a list of interview questions using Google or Pinterest. You will be better served by deciding what you want to learn from the person you’re interviewing – facts or stories. You can also plan a variety of fact-based, story-based, and open-ended questions.
Be sure that you watch this video, so you don’t make the two biggest mistakes in interviewing a relative.